Saturday, July 19, 2008

I have to tell you

what incredible people I think my BIL and SIL are. They are going through the worst pain a parent can go through.Their hearts are broken. But through this they were so concerned with the babysitter that they went over to spend time with her today. I dont know if I could of done that. My husband had went over to give her a hug and tell her we loved her.She is an old family friend (well her mother is).They were of course very distraught but shocked that Joe and Sonja would be thinking of them. Like I said I dont know if I could of done that.

Hubby spent the day at their house picking things up from the medics and packing boxes. Joe said he wouldnt go back to that house. I really understand that one.So now they are looking for a house to rent. Everyone is just numb right now. We cant even bury Erika as they have to do an autopsy first. Atleast though that will give all the out of town relatives time to get here. Jerikah my oldest is taking this so hard. She is out of town and wont be home until Wed. She wants to be with them now but I keep telling her when everyone else has had to go home they will need her badly.

So here I am rambling.Sorry. Thank you everyone for your warm wishes.Yet again you all are there for me. I have decided though enough is enough.We have had our quota for the next few years. So everyone PLEASE be safe and take care of yourselves. Our quota means no more tragedies for any of our friends and family too.

4 comments:

Penny said...

My heart goes out to the family. I don't know how parents walk around still upright after such a tragedy. As for your husband and the parents feeling compassion for the babysitter, that I do understand. I lost my sister in a terrible car accident when she was 18. The boy driving - a VERY nice young man with a smile like the sun coming up - made a careless mistake that cost her her life. He was devastated and never the same, again. He killed himself last year after 33 years of never really getting over it. I never saw that sunny smile again - just a sad one from time to time. I am so grateful that I visited him in the days following the accident to try to offer comfort. His family, as well as my own, were never completely healed. These are the types of events that touch many people. I am so sorry. Will be thinking of all of you.

Jan said...

Becca, I'm still thinking of you and sending hugs & prayers. I wouldn't want to go back to the house either. Your SIL & BIL sound like people with great character. This is definitely one of those times where you won't have all of life's answers, but just love them and you will all get to the other side. Sending more hugs!

Smiles! Becca said...

Penny that is heartbreaking. I pray that this little girl can get some counceling.I have already suggested it.
Jan you are so right. No answers to this one. We just will all have to help each other cope and try to be there for them as much as possible.
Thank you for the thoughts and support. It really helps to have a place to go that I find comfort.

Marc ~ Daisy Jayne said...

Becca and family I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I loss my eldest son 27years ago this year the loss is always with me, but I have this little saying that "memories will always last longer than dreams"